Like most little girls, I grew up dreaming about Prince Charming. Except I adapted the Disney script a tad bit and instead of seeking a prince who was tall, dark, and handsome, I aimed more for tall, light-skinned, and fine. And I got that too in my first husband. We were so into the “happily every after” fantasy that he actually rented a white horse and rode it down our suburban street, and proposed to me on bended knee, right there in the driveway with the horse and all of my family and neighbors as witnesses. But alas, just like in the Brothers Grimm’s fairy tales, stories that read well on paper, don’t always work out IRL!
Eighteen, count them, EIGHTEEN loooong months later, I was back at home living with my parents trying to work through how I had gotten my life oh-so-wrong. And oh, did I mention I had added a beautiful, fat, sumo-wrestler-looking baby boy to the mix? You never see THAT in them der fairy tales, now do ya?
It was during this time that I read my first financial book cover to cover. Maybe it was the title that held me so captivated, Prince Charming Isn’t Coming: How Women Get Smart About Money, ya think? LOL. Written by Barbara Stanny, it gives you a deep dive into things you need to do as a woman to take care of yourself financially. It explains some of the psychological damage we’ve inherited over the years about our expectations of men providing for us. And offers steps we can take to ensure we stay financially secure. On. Our. Own.
It’s not as if I planned to remain single for the rest of my life, despite my horrific divorce that dragged out for five YEARS. (Did I fail to mention my white-horse-riding-driveway-proposing-Prince Charming was a divorce attorney?) This book helped crystallize for me that I had to rely on myself going forward. Man or no man! It’s a speech I love giving to women’s groups. So if you know of any women who want to hear what can really happen after “The End” pops up on the movie screen, have them book my lecture on this topic. Ooh wee! It’s a doozy.
In the meantime, and for the rest of y’all, get the book. And more importantly, read it!